It’s not our fault,” Jacob Rosales said. I had asked the recent high-school graduate what he wants people to know about life on the reservation in Pine Ridge, South Dakota. “There’s a liquor store right across from the border,” he continued after a pause, pointing off into the distance. “Right over there.”
Okay, so this Indian is going to say what nobody else says. It’s true that you cannot, at 17 years of age, control the circumstances surrounding your life. To a certain extent, it’s true at any age. Life happens while you’re making other plans and you’re going to get creamed by it if you turn your back on it.
But the choices you make are 100% your fault.
The Pine Ridge Indian Reservation is a striking 3,469-square-mile expanse of sprawling grasslands and craggy badlands that sits in the southwest corner of South Dakota, touching Nebraska’s northern edge. Traversing the reservation by car, along its rugged matrix of two-lane highways and unmarked roads, reveals just how vast it is.
It is, actually, beautiful. I’m not Lakota Sioux, but the culture on the Pine Ridge Reservation is not all that different from on my tribe’s rez. The decaying trailer homes are familiar as are the men in braids, jeans, and Indian Pride hats waving at each other across the street. My rez is a bit richer than Pine Ridge because we have a casino and some Wyandot are married to Cherokee and Cherokee have oil wealth. The two reservations are right next door to one another. It is completely true that the 20,000-member Oglala Lakota Nation is one of the poorest, and most underdeveloped, places in the country.

Those realities help explain why, as Rosales explained, “it’s kind of unheard of for Native kids to go far and be successful.”
“We are part of the Seventh Generation … prophesied to be the generation that creates those individuals that will spearhead the economic, spiritual, and social renewal,” Rosales said. The tall, slim 19-year-old sported a sharp haircut, Nike skate shoes, khaki-colored jeans, and a thick, crew-neck sweater when we spoke. Rosales was referring to a prophecy made by the Oglala Sioux leader Crazy Horse, who shortly before his death in the late 1800s predicted that a cultural renaissance was afoot. “We are going to be that group of people that makes that prophecy come true,” Rosales said. “Red Cloud is helping us to do that.”
For example, sitting across from me at a table in the principal’s office at Red Cloud, Mills recalled a former student who had just finished his first semester at a small, liberal-arts college in Pennsylvania. After returning to campus from Pine Ridge following his first winter break, the student told Mills that he wasn’t fitting in at college, that he wanted to come home. “I was trying to get him support … to try and get him to just wait,” she said. “I told him: ‘This is part of the process. You’re homesick. This is gonna happen every time you get back to school. You just gotta get out, get involved, do things.’ Blah, blah, blah.” Mills even connected the student with someone on campus who took him out to dinner. “Come to find out, his mom ended up buying a plane ticket home for him that weekend,” she said, “so he withdrew.”
Thunder Valley Community Development Corporation, a local nonprofit, strives to fill in the gaps for non-college-bound young people and to empower Lakota families with a grassroots approach. Working in seven core themes, from language revival to food sovereignty, Thunder Valley steps in where, and when, schools fall short. Its slogan: “Native youth on the move.”
“We really try to arm them with not just construction skills, but [also] coping skills,” Andrew Iron Shell, Thunder Valley’s community-engagement coordinator, told me as he showed me around the construction site in the town of Porcupine one blustery morning. “Yeah, it’s nice we’re going to have a physical structure, but the process is way more powerful … That just gives people something to hang on to. There are not a lot of success stories that people here see every day.”
“They come in with a deer-in-the-headlights look because a lot of them—maybe it’s their first job or they grew up not seeing people get up and go to work—don’t really understand the work culture,” Iron Shell said, pointing out his favorite highlights as we toured the lot—the chicken coop, the greenhouse, the bright mural of two Lakota children surrounded by dragonflies. “My sales pitch to the community is that the young men and the young women building these houses could technically buy one of these houses.”
The article writer talks about a man named David Espinoza. Espinoza is a Lakota Indian who was born and raised on the Rosebud Reservation, which sits just east of Pine Ridge, and who co-founded a group called Boys With Braids that promotes cultural pride in Native youth.
“This cultural shame, it was a tool designed to dehumanize us,” he told me, “to basically just destroy our idealism, the foundation of who we are as people.” He spoke of the “intergenerational trauma” that has permeated reservations over the centuries—of his mother who abandoned him when he was 15, of his time spent in federal prison, of all the Lakota people who end up lost or in trouble because they don’t know how to deal with the stress that’s ingrained in them. “We’re operating out of pain,” he said. It’s not our fault.
What happened in the past is not your fault. How you react to that history is. My mother’s family chose to get up off the ground and assimilate while still retaining some aspects of their cultural roots. I am a tribal member who has never lived on a reservation, though I’ve visited. What appears to separate me and my non-rez cousins from our rez cousins is that we don’t blame others for our decisions. We take ownership of our good choices and our bad choices. Yeah, things in history sucked. Get over it. Move on. Make better choices. Choose not to be like your parents and grandparents or your siblings and aunts and uncles. What they do is not your fault. What you do, very much is.